This past year has been quite the time. My previous relationship ended after about three years, because I was in grad school in Arizona and she had moved to attend grad school herself in Oregon. We kept it up for about a year and a half after that. Eventually though, I couldn't see the situation improving and she was upset that I couldn't promise that I'd be able to move to Oregon at any particular time. About 6 months later met a seemingly awesome woman, and we really got along well. Over all of it though, was the fact that I was finishing grad school and probably moving away in less than a year. She had a lot of anxiety issues though, too. When the pandemic hit her anxiety ramped up big time, being a teacher and having to work with kids through it all, and Arizona being a really shit place to be a teacher didn't help. She started going on about she wanted to be engaged to move to wherever I ended up and we'd only been together like 6 months when she started talking about this. I should've been more forceful in saying that's a bad idea at this time, but I mostly just deflected. She would always say things like how she "wanted to be with me forever" and then ask me if I agreed with that, too. Super uncomfortable. But I figured that was her anxiety talking, and mostly she was a really good partner. Then, I got a job in Boston and finished my PhD. Again, she mentioned repeatedly wanting to get engaged and we'd be together for less than a year. I kind of hoped things would settle down after I got there and she realized that I wasn't going to leave her or anything. She visited in October, and we argued a bunch about whether her timeline on engagement was reasonable and she kept dropping suggestions that she'd want it to happen over Thanksgiving when I was supposed to visit her family. In hindsight, there was no way to make that trip happen with COVID cases spiking around that time. When she left, after having these awkward conversations almost every night she was visiting me in Boston, I really had to think hard about this. After some soul searching, I couldn't drag it on anymore. She said the longest she'd wait to get engaged would be spring, which I still just couldn't do. I mean, we spent less than a year even living in the same timezone. How can it be reasonable to get engaged during a year in which we might only see each other twice. So, it blew up pretty badly at that point. I originally wanted to find a compromise but all she would accept is me buying a plane ticket immediately to spend the next few months in Arizona with her and still wanting to get engaged in the Spring. I feel like a real asshole for not voicing my misgivings earlier, but I was kind of hoping either I'd get on her level or she'd chill out over time. Neither of which happened. Better luck next time I guess.