"Not Worth its own thread" Thread

[wheresthefbomb]

That guy is a beast. I jump-kicked him in the face 15 times and he just kept getting up every time. The sixteenth time, he slapped me right out of mid-air and I died. RIP bostjan.


As a kid, I had endless hours of enjoyment playing NES (256x224) on a television set from the late 1960's. Maybe part of the reason I can't get into modern video games is because they want me to use a television set I can't afford, sometimes sit through a 90 minute+ tutorial before I can play the game, and then have to be online or else the game won't even boot up single player. Maybe it's no wonder when a game like Angry Birds comes along and is extremely simple, casual players flock to them (no punk intended) in droves, not that "Assassin's God of Infinite Warfare XVII: Jedi Academy" or whatever, isn't making billions, but it just seems that I hear more complaints about these games than praise.

This is exactly the reason my gaming diet consists of Diablo 2 and Neverwinter Nights, both released in the early 2000s. I did branch out and buy Pillars of Eternity on GOG a couple years ago, it was alright.

It may be shocking for some to learn that not all of us set up our homes for the ultimate theatrical viewing experience. I know, that really gets under the skin of the 'phile types, but very few things in life live up to idealized standards.

I don't even have a TV or couch in my house. My living room=amps, stereo, plants, altar.

 

[CanserDYI]

Not going to lie, @wheresthefbomb, I'm mega jealous as I've never lived alone in my entire life. I've always had a roommate or a girlfriend/wife that I was living with and always wanted to understand how it felt to have a place that was absolutely mine, with zero outside intervention to how I live/arrange myself. It's one of my biggest regrets in life, that I never gave myself some time to do this before settling down with a family.

 

[spudmunkey]

Not going to lie, @wheresthefbomb, I'm mega jealous as I've never lived alone in my entire life. I've always had a roommate or a girlfriend/wife that I was living with and always wanted to understand how it felt to have a place that was absolutely mine, with zero outside intervention to how I live/arrange myself. It's one of my biggest regrets in life, that I never gave myself some time to do this before settling down with a family.

I'm the same, though I know that I'd have a long period of self-destructive (lazy) behavior before I (maybe) came out the other end as a halfway functional human. 😅

 

[wheresthefbomb]

Not going to lie, @wheresthefbomb, I'm mega jealous as I've never lived alone in my entire life. I've always had a roommate or a girlfriend/wife that I was living with and always wanted to understand how it felt to have a place that was absolutely mine, with zero outside intervention to how I live/arrange myself. It's one of my biggest regrets in life, that I never gave myself some time to do this before settling down with a family.

Yeah, I didn't have that until my mid 30s and after two divorces haha. I don't think I'd have had nearly as nice of a space alone in my 20s, as @spudmunkey suggests, it probably would've been even more of a disaster than it was when I was married.

 

[bostjan]

I'm 42 and I've lived alone less than twelve months of my life in total: a few months in my mid-twenties, and then another few months when I was 29 until just past my 30th birthday. In the latter case, I was married, but my wife was living in another state due to the disconnect between job opportunities and imposed limitations by outside factors.

I wouldn't choose to live that way, but there are perks like deciding what to eat for dinner and then just eating what you decided, versus the entire headgame and 20-minute long farting and dancing process that is deciding what to eat when another person is in the house.

 

[Demiurge]

I consider "alone time" to be in that category of things that you often get in abundance when you're too young to appreciate it. After college, I bought my own place and had it all to myself for quite some time before I met my wife. But what did I do? I worked two jobs which left me enough time to sleep and watch late-night SportsCenter, feeling bad for myself for feeling lonely. Now, I can't buy a goddamned minute to myself

 

[Crungy]

Now, I can't buy a goddamned minute to myself

Preach!

 

[CanserDYI]

Amen, in my house, I'm either covered in my wife, my two children, or my 3 cats at all times. After I get home from work is real work time.

Also, men who refuse to do dishes or laundry are children and have no place in the home. Not sure why I felt I needed to add that in there, but there it is.

EDIT: edited to say refuse* to as some families have arrangements worked out differently

 

[bostjan]

Children have a place in the home, too. (?)

All this moaning about free time makes me wonder if veji has rubbed off on us all.

 

[thebeesknees22]

daang, i'm the opposite. I've lived on my own since I was 24ish. I'm now almost 41.

But I too have no free time since I work alllll the time.

 

[TedEH]

I'm on the opposite end - 34 and I've lived most of my adult life alone. IMO it's as fantastic as people think it is. I also don't think it makes you lazy, etc. The worst I've ever been in terms of being a useless person at home was when I lived with someone. I just kinda let stuff slide 'cause I was young and didn't care, and if they cared enough, they'd just do it themselves.

Living alone means that literally everything is your own doing - meaning that if your place is a mess, well, that's your mess and nobody else is going to do anything about it, for better or worse. You learn quickly the value of creating a space you feel good about being in.

 

[wheresthefbomb]

Amen, in my house, I'm either covered in my wife, my two children, or my 3 cats at all times. After I get home from work is real work time.

Also, men who refuse to do dishes or laundry are children and have no place in the home. Not sure why I felt I needed to add that in there, but there it is.

EDIT: edited to say refuse* to as some families have arrangements worked out differently

I'm on the opposite end - 34 and I've lived most of my adult life alone. IMO it's as fantastic as people think it is. I also don't think it makes you lazy, etc. The worst I've ever been in terms of being a useless person at home was when I lived with someone. I just kinda let stuff slide 'cause I was young and didn't care, and if they cared enough, they'd just do it themselves.

Living alone means that literally everything is your own doing - meaning that if your place is a mess, well, that's your mess and nobody else is going to do anything about it, for better or worse. You learn quickly the value of creating a space you feel good about being in.

"As without - so within." If I'm not feeling good, 10/10 times my house is a mess and 10/10 times I feel better just by vacuuming or doing the dishes. My first wife and I def enabled each other to be slobs.

 

[bostjan]

Yes yes yes. When you live with someone who doesn't pick up after themselves, you turn into more of a slob yourself. The reasons are many, even if they don't actually make sense. Like, "oh I can't vacuum today, because someone left their stuff on the floor" regardless of how long it would take to move the thing. Or not cleaning the stove because someone else made something on it that boiled over and made a mess, so, instead of cleaning it, you "wait" for the other person to take care of their own mess, and instead the entire area just keeps getting messier. Pretty soon, your house is complete chaos, which puts your own psyche in a disheveled state and it just snowballs from there...

 

[nightflameauto]

Amen, in my house, I'm either covered in my wife, my two children, or my 3 cats at all times. After I get home from work is real work time.

Also, men who refuse to do dishes or laundry are children and have no place in the home. Not sure why I felt I needed to add that in there, but there it is.

EDIT: edited to say refuse* to as some families have arrangements worked out differently

Oh, men who don't clean up after themselves. Dad!

My wife doesn't work outside the home and has mostly kept up with the housework. That said, I still try to pitch in and do dishes a couple times a week, or help with laundry when I'm home, or whatever. I watched what my dad acting like a spoiled child did to my mother over the years and vowed I'd never be that guy.

So at least I get one thing right every once in a while.

 

[spudmunkey]

versus the entire headgame and 20-minute long farting and dancing process that is deciding what to eat when another person is in the house.

For us, we've worked out a system. When it gets to be around dinner time, whoever seems to have more free time will ask, "You want anything specific?" If they say no or only have one veto like "Not pasta...I had that for lunch today with my client", then we'll just go make whatever we feel like making, from the things we've bought together or that we normally both are OK with. And then neither of us complain if it's not exactly what we wanted. Ha! We both will sometimes buy things the other doesn't like, but save those for when we're on our own for whatever reason.
And we rarely eat out, so we only will if the other brings it up as a specific craving...which now that i think about it, hasn't come up at all this year yet. Which is astounding since we used to eat out sometimes twice a week, and often times we'd buy our lunches at work, too. So there's no "where do you wana go?"/"I don't know, where do you wanna go?" conversations.

 

[bostjan]

For us, we've worked out a system. When it gets to be around dinner time, whoever seems to have more free time will ask, "You want anything specific?" If they say no or only have one veto like "Not pasta...I had that for lunch today with my client", then we'll just go make whatever we feel like making, from the things we've bought together or that we normally both are OK with. We both will sometimes buy things the other doesn't like, but save those for when we're on our own for whatever reason. And we rarely eat out, so we only will if the other brings it up as a specific craving...which now that i think about it, hasn't come up at all this year yet. Which is astouding since we used to eat out sometimes twice a week, and often times we'd buy our lunches at work, too.

Yeah, we've tried that, and the batting average is pretty high, but definitely not 1000.

Usually, I'll try to think of something that is a general pleaser and say "hey, I'm making X, do you want some?" But the trouble is that, before we ever get to that point, instead of me making food because I'm hungry, she is telling me that she is hungry, but that she doesn't know what she wants to eat, and I'm not hungry yet.

 

[nightflameauto]

Yeah, we've tried that, and the batting average is pretty high, but definitely not 1000.

Usually, I'll try to think of something that is a general pleaser and say "hey, I'm making X, do you want some?" But the trouble is that, before we ever get to that point, instead of me making food because I'm hungry, she is telling me that she is hungry, but that she doesn't know what she wants to eat, and I'm not hungry yet.

Isn't it funny how a wife saying, "I'm hungry but don't know what I want to eat" is nearly universally a direct translation to, "I know I want to eat, but I only know a lot of things I definitely do NOT want to eat."

My favorite is the add-on, "I'm not fussy."

"Cool, ramen?"
"No."
"Eggs?"
"No."
"Burgers?"
"EEEEEEEEW! No."

 

[Demiurge]

The wife & I are usually pretty good with food. We both cook usually come up with a interesting ideas most weeks.

Now, TV is different. Sample:
HER: "Let's watch a movie."
ME: "Ok- what movie?"
HER: "I don't know."

 

[Jarmake]

Good news, guys.

I'm going home today! Sure, the first week will be laying down or sitting down with my foot raised, but st least I get to do it in my home! I get to play guitar! I get to watch movies on a big television, not this stamp sized hospital tv up on the wall or my phone. Next week I'll have to visit the hospital for checking out the foot and then I'll get more moving privileges and I'll get to walk a bit with this stump.

Now I'll just have to make sure my meds can handle one long drink or dry apple cider, since I was planning to drink for the 23 days I spent here.

 

[Hollowway]

I just hopped on Reverb to see what’s new, and a Baby Metal E-II arrow popped up for like $1650 or so. I guess the Yen is so weak it’s a good price now. I got it for $1878 shipped from Japan. I’m suuuuper excited, because I love the arrow shape, the red bevels are cool, and it’s a 7!