Hmmmm, I wonder why? Oh, that's why. I've been in the south for several years- it just comes with being in/near the bible belt. I'd like to think I'm fairly sensible on the issue. I do tend to lean the other way here. It seems to me that despite the things marriage was in the past (a union of more than just persons. Land, finances, and property were exchanged and matrimony was like a business merger in many cultures), marriage in America nowadays is about accountability. It's a tangible, written testament to your commitment to each other that you agree to be held legally accountable for- I don't see a problem with that. Do I think you need to get married? Certainly not! I'm frankly disgusted at how marriage seems to be treated as a glorified version of dating- no emphasis on commitment. To me, marriage represents a commitment to place the relationship above everything else- to make sure there is mutual joy and happiness that is not self-seeking. Maybe I'll get flamed for that, since it's a fairly traditional/conservative viewpoint, but it's what I believe and it's a value ingrained deep within me. I hope I don't come across as condescending, but that is a sad position to be in- believing that. I really hope you can meet someone who can be trusted. There's so many factors to consider in relationships like maturity, background, age, goals, and values- how can you ever get it all figured out? God, if I were single I'd have a hard time- it seems like many of the women around me play by the sort of rules you're pointing out. There are women who can generally be trusted, though. Look at it this way- we all make mistakes and we all are in the process of maturing relationally- who then can be trusted?