I know what you mean! I play in a metalcore/deathcore type band currently and we were auditioning drummers. I told the guy over the phone that we were really heavy, so if its something you think you ca........"oh yeah i love heavy shit where do you live ill be right there!!!" The guy shows up with no sticks. Whatever. We give him sticks and he gets behind the kit and hes holding the sticks the classic way, like one hand to the side and holding that stick through his middle and ring finger. As if hes trying out for a marching band or jazz band. I was cringing so hard and the whole band instantly knew he wasnt the right fit. I just gave him the usual "alright well we got a few other guys who wanna try out but uhhh..... Well keep in touch!