Anyone Here Ever Give Up Playing Entirely? Or Thinking Of Quitting?

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  1. HUGH JAYNUS

    HUGH JAYNUS Formerly DJIMBO

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    After giving everything i had in my last band and eventually quitting, I struggled with what direction to go in. I also lacked drive and inspiration. Or even any interest at all in playing. So i took a year off. Occasionally practicing because I thought I should. Playing covers, old band tunes, and even trying to finish songs in the works. Even sold all my gear, bought new stuff, and eventually decided i was at peace with being done with it entirely. Sold everything i had, and moved on. I haven't even touched a guitar in about 4 months now and i dont miss it. Even a little bit. It is very odd to me.

    I dont know what killed the passion, but its gone for what seems forever. I haven't even been on this site in months. Has anyone else been through something like this? What do you do with yourself afterwards? Im feeling kinda scattered and have no idea what to do with myself sometimes.

    I got hobbies so im not exactly bored. I build model cars, video games, work on my trucks, board games with friends and shit. I even got an idea on a potential career to begin now that i am more available. But yet, something is off. Maybe someone's experience can help. I've always expressed myself and gotten my therapy with music. Writing and listening. I lost that outlet though, i guess. I don't even enjoy listening to my favorite tunes as much anymore. And that shit used to be downright spiritual for me.

    Anyway, share your thoughts. Cuz i dont know who else to talk to about it.
     
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    You miss music plain and simple. Maybe you need time away from the guitar and need to pick up another instrument. Piano is a good compliment to guitar. I'd say look into that. Or violin. Or singing. Just look at something else.

    Alternatively, maybe is just being stuck in one style that's gotten boring to you. Branch out, learn blues or jazz. Maybe
     
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    USMarine75 Doc McStuffins Contributor

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    tl;dr What are you selling? ;)
     
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    Sometimes you just have to float a little before you start moving again.

    I'd say that since you don't even dig listening to much of your once fav music, that you're just burned out bad. I mean... music is passion. For me... without music, part of my soul leaves or dies or at the very least wanders aimlessly for a bit. I've had short periods where music didn't feel very important or inspirational but it always came back spontaneously. I hope that you can root your heart into something else... something positive, thought-provoking, satisfying, etc. Music will be there for you whenever you want it back. Good luck with this, man.
     
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    You'll eventually miss it enough to buy an acoustic to fiddle around on. Then you'll get the bug again and buy an electric and small amp. Then you'll go full steam ahead and buy a complete rig. Been there done that. I won't get into specifics cause it was a long time ago, but I thought I was done too.

    Keep at least one guitar and a small amp . Put them away if you really don't feel like playing. But have it handy cause a couple years into your break from music, you'll get a tune in your head that you just have to get out through your hands.

    Listen to a different genre of music for a while . You might find some inspiration in the least expected area you ever thought of. For me it was a Hans Zimmer soundtrack , as crazy as that might be.

    Everyone has a dry spell where there's no inspiration or there's a case of writers block. It goes away eventually and the creativity will come flowing out in droves.
     
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  6. BIG ND SWEATY

    BIG ND SWEATY Edgy

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    I quit playing entirely too, I haven't sold all my gear yet just in case I feel like picking it up again. It started when I took a week long break from playing and it kept going since then. It's probably been about a year since I stopped playing and I don't really miss it at all. I still listen to tons of music and look for new bands everyday and I practice different screaming techniques all the time so my passion for music is still there but I never progressed to where I wanted to be as a guitarist so I found a different outlet. If I were you I'd keep one guitar and a small amp just in case the urge to play ever came back but its not the end of the world if it doesn't.
     
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    BIG ND SWEATY Edgy

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    band drama over the years made me wish many times that i never picked up a guitar. it has also made me want to quit and sell everything many times. sometimes i wish i could just 'attend' shows and not be 'part of' the show. sometimes i wish i was just a regular jack-off with a regular boring life.

    but, playing and creating music is my therapy and the only way to calm the noise in my head. most importantly, this is my contribution to the world. if i die tomorrow, what i make will still be here. i'm no hero, or politician, or businessman. i'm one of the small percentage of the human race that creates 'art' and other people enjoy it. this is what makes me special. I can't stop doing it because i'll stop being special. that sounds really weird to me now that i've written it.

    you're burned out on music/playing. take some time off. it seems to me that something bad happened before you quit your band. same thing happened to me before i quit my old band. in my case, after some time, i made my side-project my main band. i also got into recording/mixing/video editing/etc. maybe in time you'll want to try drums, photography, video, painting, jaw-harp, start a solo project, play guitar again, or not. it's ok either way.

    lots of good points in this thread already.

    good luck to you. enjoy being one of the regular people for a while.
     
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  9. HUGH JAYNUS

    HUGH JAYNUS Formerly DJIMBO

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    A buddy and ex bandmate lives with me and has gear everywhere. I even tried noodling on his accoustic and helped him with some writing on his somgs. But it didn't make me wanna keep playing. I had to force myself to pick it up. Its just weird to me.

    I've tried getting into other genres of music too. I most that changed was i like more classic rock than I used to. Still hate pop and dont care much for country lol.

    I did notice I became more interested in gear and modding guitars than playing them. Maybe i should become a luthier lol
     
  10. HUGH JAYNUS

    HUGH JAYNUS Formerly DJIMBO

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    Only thing i have left is a set of pickups and a strap. Which i have listed here

     
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    i played for 6 years. took two years off. realized i was being an idiot. Now been practicing 4-6 hours a day for the past 8 months. passions return
     
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    I grew up poor and am currently working poor and have brain problems; I have picked it up and dropped it many times because usually:

    1. My guitar sucked and was hard to play
    2. I have brain problems and was usually left on my own to figure things out (which I never did)

    I have spent years of my life reading about and lusting over guitars and wish porning over having a good one. And being able to make pleasant guitar noises come out of one. I can't seem to quit that aspect of guitar/music appreciation completely though. There's something magical about making guitar noises come from a guitar noise maker.

    While that might be true for me it might not for you. In fact, in addition to guitar and music I really invested myself into art and drawing (A graphics tablet is a lot cheaper than a nice guitar, for a plain one not a tablet monitor like a Cintiq :lol:). but since around 2013 I really stopped progressing and the last 2-3 years I draw maybe 2-3 pictures. It's something I'm terrified of admitting to myself but maybe I'm about as done with drawing as you are with guitar. Sometimes things are just the way they are/ meant to be. You shouldn't feel bad about it, find something you like doing instead.
     
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    For sure. I think it's normal. There was one year where I didn't do anything music-related. Years later, I still regret having done that, because I would be so much better now I hadn't disregarded my musical development.

    Quitting is the only way you can fail at something.
     
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    Currently/hopefully seeing the end of a year-long hiatus. It's always weird how these breaks start: I had a project that did not pan-out and, contrary to doing what I would normally do (withdraw and feel bad for myself), I immediately threw myself into another project with all kinds of vigor, but, then, I just stopped. All of a sudden, I found that the expectations I place on myself felt like a huge burden and I didn't know why.
     
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    I stopped for almost 2 years. I moved country and just never started playing again. It was surprisingly easy to just stop given a total change of surroundings.
     
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    Same thing happened to me, after my band called it quits in 2012 - I couldn't even face looking at another guitar. Sold all my equipment, and made peace with never playing again - or so I thought. I got married last year, and my wife really wanted me to play our wedding, but as I was still not 'feeling' metal guitar, I picked up a classical guitar and learnt Canon in D finger picking classical style.

    I though that would be it, but the bug started coming back, and I decided I didn't like leaving my knowledge unfinished and since last summer I have been going back, and relearning guitar from the start ( I never took lessons, so missed out loads on my musical journey) and even with the 4/5 years out of playing, I now feel in 12 months I am a far better player than I was back then.

    I do not really have the motivation to start another band, or even work at writing much material, but I am enjoying playing, and this time I am playing just for me with no external pressure, which has reminded me why I started playing in the first place. always loved guitar, but somewhere along the way it became a job.

    Hopefully you will have a decent break, and then get back into playing again - even if its for different reasons.

    good luck man.
     
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    couverdure No Gear Day

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    I had piano lessons when I was around 6-7 but it turned out it didn't resonate with me so I never tried to learn another instrument until seven years later, when I started to pick up the guitar due to my heavy musical influence. I'm considering learning it again because it would be very useful for my understandings in music theory as I'm taking lessons about it right now.

    It looks like most of you just gave up because of depression, it might sound offensive to say this but I don't think something like this should stop you from playing instruments but rather it should be the other way around.
     
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  18. HUGH JAYNUS

    HUGH JAYNUS Formerly DJIMBO

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    I don't really believe in depression. For a while i was pretty upset. But i got better and it just felt like i was forcing myself to play. I never got the itch to play anymore and anything new i wrote just sounded crappy to my own ears. I learned a few different songs out of curiosity, but it didn't seem to make a difference.

    Maybe later I'll get the itch again. But for now I just dont have that passion anymore. Maybe i just have to learn how to be a regular jackoffs
     
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    To me it's really simple: I play whenever I feel like it. Thus, on several occasions I have gone weeks without playing, but eventually I simply miss it.

    What truly reignited my passion for playing was when one of my best friends and I started our metal band/project Oblivion Denied... We're just about ready to wrap up the recording of our second album and I have never been happier with either the music made or my playing.

    Frankly, I believe music is about "finding your way home" and when you do, it's amazing. However, the "road home" can sometimes seem so tough that you loose the spark needed to create and play...

    My advice is to take your time away from playing - odds are you'll eventually come back and enjoy the magic of music even more when you do.

    Cheers

    Eske
     
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    Ive never "quit" but i do take a lot of breaks. sometimes, like you said, i write stuff and it feels forced and just bad, so i just kinda stop playing and do something else for a while. ive thought about quitting out right and just selling everything, but i dont have a ton of gear so it doesnt really matter if i keep it or not. After quitting music school, that was when i really just wanted to not play anymore, but i started playing different stuff and stopped "trying" to write metal all the time and did more simple stuff, which helped a lot. eventually i came back around, but id say if you feel like something is missing, dont try and find it. just dont think about guitar for a while, and see if you start itching to play again. thats usually what happens to me if i dont play for a couple months; i just get like an urge to play. working on trucks is kickass, put some time into your hobbies, you'll always come back to playing eventually!
     
  21. HUGH JAYNUS

    HUGH JAYNUS Formerly DJIMBO

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    Im feeling alot better now. But I tried picking up my homie's acoustic and i just did not care. Its really weird to me how I literally just stopped caring about something that was my number 1 priority since i was 14. How the fug
     

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