SS Love and Relationships Thread

[MickD7]

Originally Posted by heavy7-665

Congrats man. Also I love the ability to look scary by doing more than stop smiling lol I've used it to defend people I've never even met lol

PS Kudos on not killing the guy givin your mom a hard time. If it was my mom that place would have looked like Frank Castle had visited on a bad day.

Had I not been so hung over I most likely would have gone Frank Castle on his ass. Yeah its a nice bonus that comes along with the stupidity of other people listening to the media's spin on an music style over here.

Randy... All the best man. bitches be crazy.

[-42-]

Any and all relationship problems can be solved by listening to this song once.

[leandroab]

Another night that ends up with a 0x0...

.... my life man. I'm sick of this shit... seriously.

And I'm only commenting here because i'm drunk as fook... :/

[-42-]

If the above song wasn't enough, then these may be for you...

[metulkult]

The lamest shit ever, is when you spend your whole night at a party mackin' on a girl, then you later find out she has a boyfriend of a year. Ultimate cock block

[GATA4]

damn son.....that does suck.

anyone here ever gotten a fear boner before?

[Prydogga]

....in' hell. If I could go to that place where my body produces love for women I 'sorta kind nearly' was with. I would blow it up in epic proportions. I hate this shit, although it's fun now.

[leandroab]

Originally Posted by -42-

If the above song wasn't enough, then these may be for you...

YEAHHH!!!!!!

[MFB]

Originally Posted by metulkult

The lamest shit ever, is when you spend your whole night at a party mackin' on a girl, then you later find out she has a boyfriend of a year. Ultimate cock block

Happened to me at Halloween. Drunk chick was on me, and I was getting more drunk by the minute so I was being flirty (I normally am anyways since it's just how I am) and in a cock-blocky sort of way, my friends were like "She's got a boyfriend who's coming here later" so I was still flirty just making sure she didn't go too far (not to mention at the same time, I was starting to enter a relationship without it being official).

[Justin Bailey]

Getting pretty lonely. Been about 6-7 months since the break up with my ex, still can't seem to get over it, and no girl I talk to seems to really excite me in any way enough to really make me want to be in a relationship with them. Pretty sick of this shit.

[MFB]

WALL OF TEXT TIME

So, as I said like ...two posts prior, this happened to me at a Halloween party I went to :

Drunk chick was on me, and I was getting more drunk by the minute so I was being flirty (I normally am anyways since it's just how I am) and in a cock-blocky sort of way, my friends were like "She's got a boyfriend who's coming here later" so I was still flirty just making sure she didn't go too far (not to mention at the same time, I was starting to enter a relationship without it being official).

Fast-forward to yesterday.

I get a random FB friend request from, lo and behold, said girl; and said girl leaves me a comment saying, "You should come up to _______ and visit me <3" to which my first response is "Oh god, what the dicks I don't even..." So I turn to my friend who goes to the same school and is good friends with her room-mate. First thing I ask was "Did _______ (person) from _______ (place) break up with her boyfriend" and I get the answer I expected - yes.

4 months later, and I get a random FB request AND comment that pretty much is a booty call. Not what I was expecting.

Conversation with friend keeps going and she literally told me the greatest advice ever, which was "You should TOTALLY hook up with her, but I don't know about going out with her. Maybe just leave it at hook up..." etc... This coming from a GIRL mind you, bitches NEVER suggest that.

Apparently she cheated on her ex a few times or something with me nearly being one of them had he not planned on coming to the same party we were at, nor did I want my first visit to that college getting me the reputation as "that guy."

EDIT - Not as wall of text-ish as I presumed, but oh well

[vampiregenocide]

Happy 'highlighting the fact you're miserable and alone but everyone else isn't day people.

[Mr Violence]

Originally Posted by vampiregenocide

Happy 'highlighting the fact you're miserable and alone but everyone else isn't day people.

Some people are miserable and not alone, sir.

[WickedSymphony]

Originally Posted by Mr Violence

Some people are miserable and not alone, sir.

Misery loves company.

I'd still rather have someone to share it with.

[JeffFromMtl]

So Friday, I met a girl that actually got me going right off the bat for the first time in a while (there's only one other girl I'd been interested in since I broke up with my ex almost a year ago). Anyway, I ended up asking her if she'd be interested in grabbing a cup of coffee or something some time, thinking it would be best to keep the date short, since we don't know each other too well yet, and her response was "sure, or maybe we could go out to watch a hockey game or something?". My jaw hit the floor. I didn't even know girls like that existed. On top of being ridiculously gorgeous, she's down with going to watch sports for a first date I don't want to get too stoked about this preemptively, but I'm feeling like all kinds of win.

[metal_sam14]

Originally Posted by JeffFromMtl

So Friday, I met a girl that actually got me going right off the bat for the first time in a while (there's only one other girl I'd been interested in since I broke up with my ex almost a year ago). Anyway, I ended up asking her if she'd be interested in grabbing a cup of coffee or something some time, thinking it would be best to keep the date short, since we don't know each other too well yet, and her response was "sure, or maybe we could go out to watch a hockey game or something?". My jaw hit the floor. I didn't even know girls like that existed. On top of being ridiculously gorgeous, she's down with going to watch sports for a first date I don't want to get too stoked about this preemptively, but I'm feeling like all kinds of win.

good on you mate, hope it all goes well!

[glassmoon0fo]

Originally Posted by JeffFromMtl

So Friday, I met a girl that actually got me going right off the bat for the first time in a while (there's only one other girl I'd been interested in since I broke up with my ex almost a year ago). Anyway, I ended up asking her if she'd be interested in grabbing a cup of coffee or something some time, thinking it would be best to keep the date short, since we don't know each other too well yet, and her response was "sure, or maybe we could go out to watch a hockey game or something?". My jaw hit the floor. I didn't even know girls like that existed. On top of being ridiculously gorgeous, she's down with going to watch sports for a first date I don't want to get too stoked about this preemptively, but I'm feeling like all kinds of win.

YOU GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER, SIR! play it cool man, real cool . good luck playa!

[JeffFromMtl]

Thanks guys, I got this

[UnderTheSign]

I sent my ex an anonymous e-card yesterday. Apparently, she keeps wondering who sent it, but loved it She went on a "you're my ex, so you're an asshole and my personal scapegoat" spree in late november/early december and we haven't spoken since... Thought this'd cheer her up a bit. I ain't telling her it was me, though I wonder if it'd bust her chops if it did. Does that make me an ass?

That said... I've been in touch with a girl I met at university last year and did a few days of internship with in june. She's in the UK until late may but we bumped into eachother two months ago and she seems to be pretty cool. She also invited me to come over for a weekend in the UK and "hinted" I should've sent her a card or some flowers last night. Wonder how this'll work out.

[soliloquy]

so i may be breaking up with my girlfriend of almost 3 years (march 3rd being 3 years).

why?

i still love her.
she is my closest friend. even my 'best' friend.
i get along with her perfect.
her mom seems to really like me.
she gets along with my family and friends perfectly.
she has the same weird, corky sense of humor as i do.
we are perfect for each other....

so then, why on earth am i thinking of breaking up with her?

*sigh*

her mom gave her an ultimatum of getting married by the age 23, so that gives me two more years. i have no problem with that, nor am i getting cold feet or anything...

my problem is that i need to graduate from university, then go to college, graduate from there, get a career related job, have enough savings etc etc etc in order to get married.

and i dont have time for that. i 'may' have time for that, but i'm not sure.
and if i'm not sure, i dont think it would be fair to her that days/weeks/months before she is to get married, i bail on her saying 'sorry, i cant do it' only for her to get married to someone else (we are brown, arrange marriages, random proposals come to us like the wind...its ....ed!), all the while she wont be over me. its not fair to her. its not fair to her husband. and its not fair to me either.

this insane pressure that she has put me under, i'm willing to tough it out. why? truth be told, i can afford to lose my girlfriend in her. i can afford to lose my would-be-wife in her as well....however, i cant afford to lose my best friend in her.

i dont make friends too easily, and when i do, i try my hardest to hold onto them. and if we sever our relationship, its usually from their end as they want it, and i walk away respecting their decision....but here, it will be my decision as i'll be looking out for her future. even if it means killing my self(not literally, but emotionally) to sever her from my life...

and thats not the only thing. if i do cut it off, i would also be saying good bye to a few other friends that we share, just to make it easier on her to get over me.

not in a happy place right now....

[vampiregenocide]

.... arranged marriages.

[MFB]

Hate to say it bro, but if you break up with her I get the feeling you'll not only lose her as your girlfriend but also as your best friend too; despite the fact that that is what you DON'T want. The reason? They're currently the same person. So the emotional wreck of a girlfriend is gonna be the one taking over, and probably (most definitely even) won't look at things from the same stand point as you. The "best friend" will still be there, but for a while, she's gonna be looked up in the closet while the "recently dumped" part takes over and wreaks havoc.

[JeffFromMtl]

How did her mother give her an ultimatum? What's the catch? She gets married by 23 or... what?

Either way, I know plenty of people who come from very strict ethnic cultural backgrounds and for the most part, while respecting their families and cultures have decided to do things their own way instead. Is there no way for the two of you and her parents to meet somewhere in the middle?

Also, I know a number of people who got married before they had any career path outlined for themselves, and I know others who started their careers first, then got married, and some who married their careers . I truly believe that if two people feel strongly enough for one another, regardless of external circumstances, can find a way to make it work. Things don't always have to be done in the way of any social or cultural norms.

That's my , but of course, I don't have any sort of cultural pressure on me, and come from a very liberal family and can't even see myself being married by the time I'm 30, so I'm not sure how valid my point of view may be in your situation.

[soliloquy]

Originally Posted by MFB

Hate to say it bro, but if you break up with her I get the feeling you'll not only lose her as your girlfriend but also as your best friend too; despite the fact that that is what you DON'T want. The reason? They're currently the same person. So the emotional wreck of a girlfriend is gonna be the one taking over, and probably (most definitely even) won't look at things from the same stand point as you. The "best friend" will still be there, but for a while, she's gonna be looked up in the closet while the "recently dumped" part takes over and wreaks havoc.

i know, and i'm well aware of that....

but thats whats hoping for as well. i mean, the only way she would get over me is if i walk out of her life.

i mean, my sister went/is going through something similar. she dated the guy for 5 years, they loved each other. however, he backed off, and they are still friends. really really close friends. however, its been over 3 years, shes still not over him, and i'm not sure how he feels about her...but since they are such close friends, its harder on my sister to get over him as she seems him at least once a week.

if i do that with my girl, then she wont be over me, get married to someone else, but wont be emotionally connected to him. its not the guys fault, so why am i punishing him? and like wise, why am i punishing her by staying in her life? kinda like the 'you can look, but not touch' kinda thing.

[Randy]

Originally Posted by MFB

Hate to say it bro, but if you break up with her I get the feeling you'll not only lose her as your girlfriend but also as your best friend too; despite the fact that that is what you DON'T want. The reason? They're currently the same person. So the emotional wreck of a girlfriend is gonna be the one taking over, and probably (most definitely even) won't look at things from the same stand point as you. The "best friend" will still be there, but for a while, she's gonna be looked up in the closet while the "recently dumped" part takes over and wreaks havoc.

FWIW, I had a "marry or break-up" kinda thing going on with my and my really long term girlfriend, made a million and one excuses not to do it and we broke up. It was a couple years later I realized that I could've married her penniless, homeless, and overburdened with work/school but at least we would've had eachother. All the shit I threw in the way was pretty much meaningless and I lost probably the greatest girl I could've ever found because I let myself get hung up on stuff that didn't matter.

Food for thought.