SS Love and Relationships Thread - Page 17

Fzau · 07-12-2010, 03:16 PM

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Originally Posted by leandroab

That's my problem.. Ahahaha

Not the most flirty of chaps, are we?

(Some funny, cocky comments are great too)

budda · 07-12-2010, 03:33 PM

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Originally Posted by JohnIce

Wise words, as always

I was actually very close to breaking up with my girl today, and have been several times before, she's wanted to break up with me at times, yet here we are still together. There are just too many reasons to stay together, that's what it boils down to.

I had a long talk with my ex last night about being single, what we both want in the future, why we still talk etc. I wish I had saved the convo, I normally save long talks with friends just in case I want to re-cap what was said later.

Life is confusing.. can only try to make the best of it. I'm trying to focus on being the me I want to be, but it's difficult when some of it goes against logical ideas because I'm tired of waiting for the change..

but that's not love and relationships. BRING ON THE DRAMA.

leandroab · 07-12-2010, 03:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Fzau

Not the most flirty of chaps, are we?

No!

I guess I need to buy a manual or something ahhahaa

renzoip · 07-12-2010, 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by leandroab

Hahaha. I get all the body language for sure. The problem is to get things started lol...
I'm a very serious and straight forward person. I'm not the master of the "bla bla bla"s. It's my nature to just go straight to the point. And that is not good hahaha.

Well, from my experience I can tell you that in often in these cases, less is more. In fact, I would say that is more about saying fewer more interesting things rather than running your mouth. Let her do the blah blah blah, they love that!

metulkult · 07-13-2010, 02:16 AM

So, a girl I've liked for a very long time, finally said to me that she liked me back and wants to have a relationship. But now that I've thought of it, having a relationship right now would be for the worst for me right now.
I have very little time for music now, with work and other things, and most of my money doesn't go to gear anymore nowadays. I figure a girlfriend would make me neglect music even more right now.
So I said I wasn't interested anymore. Call my crazy, but sex can't substitute my original love for music, especially now that I have little time for it, and I can spend my time not being clinging on to one person, as I'm still quite young :P

Smart decision?

avenger · 07-13-2010, 06:22 AM

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Originally Posted by metulkult

So, a girl I've liked for a very long time, finally said to me that she liked me back and wants to have a relationship. But now that I've thought of it, having a relationship right now would be for the worst for me right now.
I have very little time for music now, with work and other things, and most of my money doesn't go to gear anymore nowadays. I figure a girlfriend would make me neglect music even more right now.
So I said I wasn't interested anymore. Call my crazy, but sex can't substitute my original love for music, especially now that I have little time for it, and I can spend my time not being clinging on to one person, as I'm still quite young :P

Smart decision?

If you like jerking it I guess?

cycloptopus · 07-13-2010, 07:01 AM

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Originally Posted by budda

Life is confusing.. can only try to make the best of it. I'm trying to focus on being the me I want to be, but it's difficult when some of it goes against logical ideas because I'm tired of waiting for the change..

but that's not love and relationships. BRING ON THE DRAMA.

Absolutely, man.

People close to me keep saying I need to focus on myself. WTF does that mean exactly? I just blew up someone else's life and my own. Now everyone is reeling, people are angry/sad. Hard to focus on myself with all these thoughts. And if i wasn't selfish enough, I'm supposed to focus MORE on me? I never thought of myself as the source of so much drama but it happened. And for what? Still not sure of what I'm doing

chimp_spanner · 07-13-2010, 07:42 AM

^ It's true man. I'm experiencing this the other way around...I was telling the girl I was crazy about to think of her own feelings and do what she wanted (when it related to moving on from an ex and following her feelings for me). Totally backfired now that she's quit her job, put me in the friend zone, and wants to travel for a year to sort her head out. So I won't lie, it's rough as anything being on the other end of it. I suppose the only thing I can really take from it is firstly to avoid people that are still so much a WIP. But also that if I had have got her to pursue anything with me, it would've been under duress. And the uncertainty would've always been there.

Sorry, bit of a hijack there. Just interesting to see the other side of it. Although I don't know if she's feeling anywhere near as bad as you. Might not care, I don't know!

Prydogga · 07-13-2010, 07:47 AM

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Originally Posted by JohnIce

Wise words, as always

I was actually very close to breaking up with my girl today, and have been several times before, she's wanted to break up with me at times, yet here we are still together. There are just too many reasons to stay together, that's what it boils down to.

Reason 1. Your girlfriend is freaking hot. I'm sure any who've seen would agree

Sang-Drax · 07-13-2010, 08:02 AM

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Originally Posted by metulkult

So, a girl I've liked for a very long time, finally said to me that she liked me back and wants to have a relationship. But now that I've thought of it, having a relationship right now would be for the worst for me right now.
I have very little time for music now, with work and other things, and most of my money doesn't go to gear anymore nowadays. I figure a girlfriend would make me neglect music even more right now.
So I said I wasn't interested anymore. Call my crazy, but sex can't substitute my original love for music, especially now that I have little time for it, and I can spend my time not being clinging on to one person, as I'm still quite young :P

Smart decision?

Hell no. Unless you're simply not interested in her anymore.

budda · 07-13-2010, 11:57 AM

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Originally Posted by metulkult

So, a girl I've liked for a very long time, finally said to me that she liked me back and wants to have a relationship. But now that I've thought of it, having a relationship right now would be for the worst for me right now.
I have very little time for music now, with work and other things, and most of my money doesn't go to gear anymore nowadays. I figure a girlfriend would make me neglect music even more right now.
So I said I wasn't interested anymore. Call my crazy, but sex can't substitute my original love for music, especially now that I have little time for it, and I can spend my time not being clinging on to one person, as I'm still quite young :P

Smart decision?

mm... in my opinion, no.

What would have made more sense (this is of course after the fact, with a clear head mind you

much easier to think things through) would be to tell her what you just told us about having spare time for music. She probably knows you well enough to the point of knowing how much you care about music and how important it is to you. Chances are you could continue to do your music thing, while being in a relationship with her.

If you get the chance to talk about that at all today (within 24 hours of your saying you're not interested) then I suggest at least giving it a shot.

PS: you're not supposed to cling to your partner.

TreWatson · 07-13-2010, 01:39 PM

I've gotten myself in a pickle.

ex girlfriend who i still love

other ex girlfriend who i went the Friend with benefits route that i think now has feelings for me

annnnnd this younger girl i like ( she's 18 ) living in Pennsylvania.

unfortunately none of them talk to me in a romantic context anymore, so i think i got triple friendzoned.

doesnt bother me, but it's kinda ronery.

leandroab · 07-13-2010, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by TreKita

I've gotten myself in a pickle.

ex girlfriend who i still love

other ex girlfriend who i went the Friend with benefits route that i think now has feelings for me

annnnnd this younger girl i like ( she's 18 ) living in Pennsylvania.

unfortunately none of them talk to me in a romantic context anymore, so i think i got triple friendzoned.

doesnt bother me, but it's kinda ronery.

Holy shit son. You just got triple friendzoned!

Antimatter · 07-13-2010, 01:49 PM

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Originally Posted by leandroab

Holy shit son. You just got triple friendzoned!

Sucks man. That's like, mythically bad. ):

MFB · 07-13-2010, 06:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Antimatter

Sucks man. That's like, mythically bad.

Indeed.

The friendzone is a maze so powerful and vast, not even Thessius himself could find a way out even WITH a ball of yarn

avenger · 07-14-2010, 06:27 AM

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Originally Posted by leandroab

Holy shit son. You just got triple friendzoned!

God I hate the friendzone.

Even more bizzare is the friendzone with benifits. EVEN MORE bizzare is the friendzone with benifits with both parties still loving each other. EVEN MORE BIZZARE is the friendzone with benifits with both parties still loving each other with her family waiting me to come over to do stuff with them and her saying that she still feels like I am hers!

TreWatson · 07-14-2010, 06:30 AM

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Originally Posted by avenger

God I hate the friendzone.

Even more bizzare is the friendzone with benifits. EVEN MORE bizzare is the friendzone with benifits with both parties still loving each other. EVEN MORE BIZZARE is the friendzone with benifits with both parties still loving each other with her family waiting me to come over to do stuff with them and her saying that she still feels like I am hers!

oh lawl.

thats pretty insane, brah

Varcolac · 07-14-2010, 06:50 AM

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Originally Posted by avenger

God I hate the friendzone.

Even more bizzare is the friendzone with benifits. EVEN MORE bizzare is the friendzone with benifits with both parties still loving each other. EVEN MORE BIZZARE is the friendzone with benifits with both parties still loving each other with her family waiting me to come over to do stuff with them and her saying that she still feels like I am hers!

I thought that the friendzone with benefits and both parties loving each other and their families wanting to meet the respective parties is what in English we would call "a relationship."

leandroab · 07-14-2010, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Varcolac

I thought that the friendzone with benefits and both parties loving each other and their families wanting to meet the respective parties is what in English we would call "a relationship."

Me too...

leandroab · 07-14-2010, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by leandroab

Me too...

Yeah.

avenger · 07-14-2010, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Varcolac

I thought that the friendzone with benefits and both parties loving each other and their families wanting to meet the respective parties is what in English we would call "a relationship."

Yeah indeed, it is a mind.....

Antimatter · 07-14-2010, 11:01 AM

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Originally Posted by avenger

God I hate the friendzone.

Even more bizzare is the friendzone with benifits. EVEN MORE bizzare is the friendzone with benifits with both parties still loving each other. EVEN MORE BIZZARE is the friendzone with benifits with both parties still loving each other with her family waiting me to come over to do stuff with them and her saying that she still feels like I am hers!

Sounds like a lot of unnecessary complication D:

avenger · 07-14-2010, 11:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Antimatter

Sounds like a lot of unnecessary complication D:

Meh etheir way I am fine.

If she thinks she can find something better well she is clearly wrong but good for her. If we come to a conclusion that forcing ourselves to not be "dating" is silly then thats cool too.

JohnIce · 07-18-2010, 01:52 PM

Alright, so I finally did break up with my girlfriend... it feels pretty relieving though, it was one of those relationships that looked good on the surface but was mostly just a bunch of emptiness, coldness and increasingly rare sex. I just felt bad a lot of the time, and we got to the point where pride and criticizing the other one became more important than love.

The only thing that makes me a bit sad is the thought of her with other guys... that's gonna suck, especially after all the shit she's thrown at me for not fulfilling all her demands etc. But on the upside I'm dying to be with girls who are more loving and respect me. "Plenty of fish in the sea" is an understatement. So she's got all the right to move on, I just don't want to know about it,.

So I'm saying cheers and best wishes to my Maria. She's up for grabs, gentlemen.

vampiregenocide · 07-18-2010, 02:03 PM

Sorry to hear that bro.

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07-13-2010, 02:16 AM	#405
metulkult hurr im a durr Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Chilliwack, British Columbia, Canada Posts: 507 Thanked: 15 Feedback Score: 2 reviews	So, a girl I've liked for a very long time, finally said to me that she liked me back and wants to have a relationship. But now that I've thought of it, having a relationship right now would be for the worst for me right now. I have very little time for music now, with work and other things, and most of my money doesn't go to gear anymore nowadays. I figure a girlfriend would make me neglect music even more right now. So I said I wasn't interested anymore. Call my crazy, but sex can't substitute my original love for music, especially now that I have little time for it, and I can spend my time not being clinging on to one person, as I'm still quite young :P Smart decision? derp.

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chimp_spanner I am a meat popsicle Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Colchester, UK Posts: 619 Thanked: 38 Feedback Score: 0 reviews	^ It's true man. I'm experiencing this the other way around...I was telling the girl I was crazy about to think of her own feelings and do what she wanted (when it related to moving on from an ex and following her feelings for me). Totally backfired now that she's quit her job, put me in the friend zone, and wants to travel for a year to sort her head out. So I won't lie, it's rough as anything being on the other end of it. I suppose the only thing I can really take from it is firstly to avoid people that are still so much a WIP. But also that if I had have got her to pursue anything with me, it would've been under duress. And the uncertainty would've always been there. Sorry, bit of a hijack there. Just interesting to see the other side of it. Although I don't know if she's feeling anywhere near as bad as you. Might not care, I don't know! Chimp Spanner on teh webz: Homepage MySpace Soundclick My parents!

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07-18-2010, 01:52 PM	#424
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