SS Love and Relationships Thread

[Konfyouzd]

Originally Posted by groph

Well, now the tables have turned and I'm going to have to friend zone someone, actually "L" from this thread: Wat do (serious content)

Long story short, we had a debacle a couple of weeks ago regarding L being in the car with a drunk driver and me going off the rails trying to make sure she's okay because I've known her since I was 4 and she's the closest I have to a sister, so I do love her to pieces.

Since then, she's been texting me much more frequently and she's been punctuating the texts with affectionate terms like "babe" and "hun" which is a bit uncomfortable. I don't mind the occasional endearing word from a platonic female friend but when they lay it on it's just weird.

On Saturday night I got wasted at a friend's place (far too drunk, I need to stop drinking large quantities of hard liquor and stick to beer) and L and her (also female) friend S come up. They're good friends of mine so I wanted to see them. Everybody ended up getting pretty tipsy and APPARENTLY I was hanging off of L. When my friend told me I did that my soul shriveled because I don't remember doing that at all and I have zero intentions towards L. I need to watch what I drink around her (she's coming along with a few other friends to a pubcrawl night on Friday - I have tons of other people I could hang out with and intended on hanging out with anyway who are also going to this event; its for my school and I am NOT looking to lead L on).

Anyway, I haven't talked to L since Saturday but I figure I'm going to have to tell her how things are. I ....ing regret getting so drunk because I was all over her that night (wasn't really all over her in a "I want to bang you right now" kind of sense but I was apparently just being really close with her and pushing the friendship boundary quite a bit). According to S, L does like me a bit so I can't be sending off mixed signals as I have no interest in L. She even has a boyfriend but I guess things aren't going too well between them.

.... alcohol. Making me do the exact opposite of what I wanted to do.

I say don't even ....in' worry about it.

Girls use terms like "babe" and "hun" and all kinds of other affectionate sounding shit w/o even noticing it some of the time. Like how some dudes say "bro" 4000x/sentence.

There was a girl I recently asked out... Well it's been months actually. But at any rate, she told me she "didn't like me like that." Fair enough. But she still wants to be friends.

After agreeing to be friends (bc I can't be like "No, bitch! .... you!") she seemed to get nicer and she calls me shit like "honey" and other stupid cutesy names and I have absolutely NO feeling whatsoever that she wants to date me; she's just comfortable now.

PS - We also get drunk and flirt ALL THE TIME and it goes absolutely nowhere. It's devolved to the level of an inside joke at best...

[groph]

Originally Posted by Konfyouzd

I say don't even ....in' worry about it.

Girls use terms like "babe" and "hun" and all kinds of other affectionate sounding shit w/o even noticing it some of the time. Like how some dudes say "bro" 4000x/sentence.

There was a girl I recently asked out... Well it's been months actually. But at any rate, she told me she "didn't like me like that." Fair enough. But she still wants to be friends.

After agreeing to be friends (bc I can't be like "No, bitch! .... you!") she seemed to get nicer and she calls me shit like "honey" and other stupid cutesy names and I have absolutely NO feeling whatsoever that she wants to date me; she's just comfortable now.

PS - We also get drunk and flirt ALL THE TIME and it goes absolutely nowhere. It's devolved to the level of an inside joke at best...

Well I just don't like the idea of getting so drunk I send off mixed signals to a girl who apparently does like me a bit, or to any girl for that matter. I'm trying to go through life without getting implicated in a sexual encounter that was complicated by alcohol. I know some friends do just mess around like that and they might even get drunk and screw and it's not that big of a deal but I feel there are some boundaries between L and I at least as far as I am concerned. She's not unattractive or anything, I've just known her for 17 goddamned years and I don't look at her in that way at all, whatsoever.

I've been friendzoned a few times so I know the longer it goes on, the more painful it's going to be for the friendzon-ee so I don't want to torture her for a while, if I know she likes me and I don't, then I'm going to have to tell her.

[murakami]

Originally Posted by Captain Shoggoth

^it happens to the best of us.

.... our brains.

yeah, poison that ............ with alcohol!

[murakami]

Originally Posted by groph

Well, now the tables have turned and I'm going to have to friend zone someone, actually "L" from this thread: Wat do (serious content)

Long story short, we had a debacle a couple of weeks ago regarding L being in the car with a drunk driver and me going off the rails trying to make sure she's okay because I've known her since I was 4 and she's the closest I have to a sister, so I do love her to pieces.

Since then, she's been texting me much more frequently and she's been punctuating the texts with affectionate terms like "babe" and "hun" which is a bit uncomfortable. I don't mind the occasional endearing word from a platonic female friend but when they lay it on it's just weird.

On Saturday night I got wasted at a friend's place (far too drunk, I need to stop drinking large quantities of hard liquor and stick to beer) and L and her (also female) friend S come up. They're good friends of mine so I wanted to see them. Everybody ended up getting pretty tipsy and APPARENTLY I was hanging off of L. When my friend told me I did that my soul shriveled because I don't remember doing that at all and I have zero intentions towards L. I need to watch what I drink around her (she's coming along with a few other friends to a pubcrawl night on Friday - I have tons of other people I could hang out with and intended on hanging out with anyway who are also going to this event; its for my school and I am NOT looking to lead L on).

Anyway, I haven't talked to L since Saturday but I figure I'm going to have to tell her how things are. I ....ing regret getting so drunk because I was all over her that night (wasn't really all over her in a "I want to bang you right now" kind of sense but I was apparently just being really close with her and pushing the friendship boundary quite a bit). According to S, L does like me a bit so I can't be sending off mixed signals as I have no interest in L. She even has a boyfriend but I guess things aren't going too well between them.

.... alcohol. Making me do the exact opposite of what I wanted to do.

don't take this the wrong way; i mean you're a cool guy and all, but stop with the getting wasted shit. you seem to be going to drinking party' or pubs a lot from what i read... and getting shit faced as well.

i mean, you even mentioned you shouldn't drink so much, right? whats making you drink so much? that one experience you shared with those two ....ing assholes(one with a knife and the other as a paranoid bitch calling everyone a racist) is a huge sign that you're getting involved in some bad situations(the next one being you, hanging off your friend while plastered).

plus, i am getting the notion you're really young. come on, man... you can really .... up your liver. there must be more fun things in life than getting drunk for you. i am so sure

[VBCheeseGrater]

Originally Posted by Konfyouzd

Originally Posted by Jakke
Kinda like seeing Satch in the eighties. Disturbing...

I thought someone was ....in' with me the first time I saw a pic of Satch w/ hair...

..this is SO close to having a totally different meaning

[BucketheadRules]

Originally Posted by groph

Well, now the tables have turned and I'm going to have to friend zone someone, actually "L" from this thread: Wat do (serious content)

Long story short, we had a debacle a couple of weeks ago regarding L being in the car with a drunk driver and me going off the rails trying to make sure she's okay because I've known her since I was 4 and she's the closest I have to a sister, so I do love her to pieces.

Since then, she's been texting me much more frequently and she's been punctuating the texts with affectionate terms like "babe" and "hun" which is a bit uncomfortable. I don't mind the occasional endearing word from a platonic female friend but when they lay it on it's just weird.

On Saturday night I got wasted at a friend's place (far too drunk, I need to stop drinking large quantities of hard liquor and stick to beer) and L and her (also female) friend S come up. They're good friends of mine so I wanted to see them. Everybody ended up getting pretty tipsy and APPARENTLY I was hanging off of L. When my friend told me I did that my soul shriveled because I don't remember doing that at all and I have zero intentions towards L. I need to watch what I drink around her (she's coming along with a few other friends to a pubcrawl night on Friday - I have tons of other people I could hang out with and intended on hanging out with anyway who are also going to this event; its for my school and I am NOT looking to lead L on).

Anyway, I haven't talked to L since Saturday but I figure I'm going to have to tell her how things are. I ....ing regret getting so drunk because I was all over her that night (wasn't really all over her in a "I want to bang you right now" kind of sense but I was apparently just being really close with her and pushing the friendship boundary quite a bit). According to S, L does like me a bit so I can't be sending off mixed signals as I have no interest in L. She even has a boyfriend but I guess things aren't going too well between them.

.... alcohol. Making me do the exact opposite of what I wanted to do.

Dude, I'm with murakami ^.

I'm not one to preach normally, but stupid shit like this is just going to keep happening when you drink. It'll probably come to a point where you don't even enjoy it all that much anymore... getting drunk to the point where you can't remember or can't control what you're doing will inevitably just make your problems worse. You keep saying you need to stop drinking so much, so why not give it a shot? (No pun intended )

Personally I don't drink (and I try to stay away from parties etc where EVERYONE will be absolutely sloshed, I find drunk people fackin' annoying but then I generally find non-drunk people really annoying too)... adding to this, I'm not exactly a womaniser either (understatement of the freaking year), so I can't offer much first hand experience, this is just my take on your situation off the top of my head.

Don't read anything too much into my words, because I'm just a stupid kid who lives thousands of miles away from you, and please don't read any malice into it either, because I definitely didn't write it with any! I'm just giving you my perspective, and my perspective is that the alcohol won't be doing your girl troubles any favours - try and keep your head clear when you're dealing with all the millions of problems that the opposite sex brings to us fellas...

[murakami]

buckethead indeed rulez haha

[BucketheadRules]

Originally Posted by murakami

buckethead indeed rulez haha

Why thank you, kind sir.

Even though, technically speaking, I'm not actually Buckethead but rather a faintly retarded 16-year-old kid from England who is, sadly, nowhere near as good at guitar as the Bebucketed Almighty.

Anyway, I'm dragging this all off topic, sorry. Someone put it back on track, because I have no love life at all and therefore nothing to actually contribute - at least that means nothing to go wrong with it (although something inevitably will now I've said this )

[groph]

Originally Posted by murakami

don't take this the wrong way; i mean you're a cool guy and all, but stop with the getting wasted shit. you seem to be going to drinking party' or pubs a lot from what i read... and getting shit faced as well.

i mean, you even mentioned you shouldn't drink so much, right? whats making you drink so much? that one experience you shared with those two ....ing assholes(one with a knife and the other as a paranoid bitch calling everyone a racist) is a huge sign that you're getting involved in some bad situations(the next one being you, hanging off your friend while plastered).

plus, i am getting the notion you're really young. come on, man... you can really .... up your liver. there must be more fun things in life than getting drunk for you. i am so sure

Yeah I need to tone it down a bit for sure. After Friday night I'm probably going to call it quits for a little while, maybe until St. Patrick's day or something. Friday night calls for a certain level of decorum anyway so I won't be getting annihilated. I find if I'm downtown (which isnt that often) alcohol affects me differently, I guess being up and about helps things get processed easier so I'm not completely ....ed up like I get when I'm just hanging out on a couch getting drunk for no good reason with 5 or 6 other people. Saturday night it was just going to be me and a few friends at their place so it wouldn't have mattered that much if a few of us drank too much since we were all just being idiots anyway, I was not the only one who was hammered. This raises the question if they're actually friends or just drinking buddies. I'm inclined to say they're my friends but of course I would say that.

Originally Posted by BucketheadRules

Dude, I'm with murakami ^.

I'm not one to preach normally, but stupid shit like this is just going to keep happening when you drink. It'll probably come to a point where you don't even enjoy it all that much anymore... getting drunk to the point where you can't remember or can't control what you're doing will inevitably just make your problems worse. You keep saying you need to stop drinking so much, so why not give it a shot? (No pun intended )

Personally I don't drink (and I try to stay away from parties etc where EVERYONE will be absolutely sloshed, I find drunk people fackin' annoying but then I generally find non-drunk people really annoying too)... adding to this, I'm not exactly a womaniser either (understatement of the freaking year), so I can't offer much first hand experience, this is just my take on your situation off the top of my head.

Don't read anything too much into my words, because I'm just a stupid kid who lives thousands of miles away from you, and please don't read any malice into it either, because I definitely didn't write it with any! I'm just giving you my perspective, and my perspective is that the alcohol won't be doing your girl troubles any favours - try and keep your head clear when you're dealing with all the millions of problems that the opposite sex brings to us fellas...

Yeah it's pretty consistent. I drink a quart of liquor in a night and SOMETHING embarrassing happens. Not too proud of the whole "drink a quart" thing - I have a tolerance and I can keep a quart down, but that doesn't mean I should be drinking that much, I should AT LEAST be splitting it with someone. Never had any problems with beer though and the effects settle in gradually which is good because I just drink fast, I drink everything fast. Lately I have been kind of bad with drinking, actually I think I've been drinking nearly every day off or weekend - not EVERY day or weekend day, I mean one drinking session - bear in mind I'm not getting shitfaced every time.

Regardless, the notion of "please drink responsibly" has been setting into my head a bit better over the past couple of weeks, I'm not worried about anything terrible happening on Friday since it will be a good setting with good people. I've included the term to mean "don't get so ....ed up you can't handle a bad situation when one arises." Originally I just thought they meant, "don't drive you idiot" but there is a little bit more to it than that.

Getting back on track, I texted L about this, apparently she's not interested in me, she uses terms of endearment to everyone she texts, and she's fine with what happened so basically this just boils down to me being a drunk idiot. Again.

[Sicarius]

GG.

In the mean time, I'm talking to a chick I used to work with, and see if she wants to go to a local gun show at the end of the month.

The problem? This girl is slightly older than I am, but that's not the issue, she's a a pretty big pot head, and thinks she needs to move back to Oregon to get away from the family that "doesn't love her".

Crazy woman is 26 and is still in the "my parents hate me boo hoo" stage. Meh, her response will probably be a no anyway.

also this:

[soliloquy]

ermm....i just told a girl to back the .... off and i may have thrown her in the friend zone.

so this girl whos in my friend circle (i'm not that close to her, though we went to school together, but i'm friendly towards her...) just had an ugly breakup and is falling all apart. its my stupid habit of holding people up when they are down. i went through a phase that lasted 3 years coz of that, and i dont want anyone going through it again, or at least not alone...

regardless, so i'm trying to comfort her and saying that 'i'm here for her if she ever wants to talk or anything'.

then she starts hitting on me, and being very flirty. i told her that 'i hope you dont think i'm trying to pick you up, nor am i trying to lead you on. i'm not leaving my girlfriends side anytime soon'. she kind of took that hard.

and now i feel bad for making her feel even worse. i know i shouldnt as its not my problem. but...what the ....?!

you be nice to someone, and they take it the wrong way. you be a bitch to them, and they still think you like em. bitches be crazy

[Aevolve]

Originally Posted by soliloquy

ermm....i just told a girl to back the .... off and i may have thrown her in the friend zone.

so this girl whos in my friend circle (i'm not that close to her, though we went to school together, but i'm friendly towards her...) just had an ugly breakup and is falling all apart. its my stupid habit of holding people up when they are down. i went through a phase that lasted 3 years coz of that, and i dont want anyone going through it again, or at least not alone...

regardless, so i'm trying to comfort her and saying that 'i'm here for her if she ever wants to talk or anything'.

then she starts hitting on me, and being very flirty. i told her that 'i hope you dont think i'm trying to pick you up, nor am i trying to lead you on. i'm not leaving my girlfriends side anytime soon'. she kind of took that hard.

and now i feel bad for making her feel even worse. i know i shouldnt as its not my problem. but...what the ....?!

you be nice to someone, and they take it the wrong way. you be a bitch to them, and they still think you like em. bitches be crazy

She's naturally going to be emotionally raw after the break up, and she's going to latch on to the first guy who shows her emotional comfort. I'm all for supporting and helping her, but guidelines have to be drawn in the dirt. You did the right thing by letting her know where your feelings lie, it's up to her to be mature enough to distinguish between someone caring and showing support and someone trying to start a relationship.

[Sicarius]

I've decided that since I've been alone for so long, and it's likely to not get corrected.

I'm going to spend the money I would have used on a g/f, on a Mesa Rectoverb combo amp.

I will name her Rhonda and she will never leave me.

[Captain Shoggoth]

^That first sentence is being overtly dramatic and pessimistic IMO, but I fully back you on the latter two!

Originally Posted by BucketheadRules

Personally I don't drink (and I try to stay away from parties etc where EVERYONE will be absolutely sloshed, I find drunk people fackin' annoying but then I generally find non-drunk people really annoying too)... adding to this, I'm not exactly a womaniser either (understatement of the freaking year), so I can't offer much first hand experience, this is just my take on your situation off the top of my head.

Don't read anything too much into my words, because I'm just a stupid kid who lives thousands of miles away from you, and please don't read any malice into it either, because I definitely didn't write it with any! I'm just giving you my perspective, and my perspective is that the alcohol won't be doing your girl troubles any favours - try and keep your head clear when you're dealing with all the millions of problems that the opposite sex brings to us fellas...

Dude... you're my age, live in London and said all the exact shit I would have... we need to jam sometime

[Sicarius]

that's me. Mr. Pessimistic Sarcasm Man.

[murakami]

Originally Posted by Sicarius

GG.

In the mean time, I'm talking to a chick I used to work with, and see if she wants to go to a local gun show at the end of the month.

The problem? This girl is slightly older than I am, but that's not the issue, she's a a pretty big pot head, and thinks she needs to move back to Oregon to get away from the family that "doesn't love her".

Crazy woman is 26 and is still in the "my parents hate me boo hoo" stage. Meh, her response will probably be a no anyway.

also this:

YES! GOD YES!

[Fiction]

Originally Posted by Sicarius

that's me. Mr. Pessimistic Sarcasm Man.

Hello, Mr. Pessimistic Sarcasm Man! I'm Mr Optimistic Greeting Man!

[Konfyouzd]

I'm just confused about most interactions involving other human beings. Somehow we always manage to defy logic. Didn't we pretty much come up with the whole concept of logic in the first place?

[leandroab]

Girl I'm dating is going to have a 7am-22pm studying regime this year. FML

[Konfyouzd]

Don't be a clingy bitch... Make it work.

[leandroab]

Originally Posted by Konfyouzd

Don't be a clingy bitch... Make it work.

Oh you bet your ass it's going to work. This shit will work like a mutha....a.

[Sicarius]

And then your life will get sucked back into Minecraft.

[ghstofperdition]

So I got to spend some alone time with my bf for the first time in a couple months. Goddamn do I love cuddling and all that shit! Feels good man.

[VBCheeseGrater]

Originally Posted by Konfyouzd

I'm just confused about most interactions involving other human beings.

The way some people act i don't blame you. I'm 34 and still wonder about this sometimes. Seems like most people never think for a second where the other person might be coming from, or what may be going on with them.

[leandroab]

Originally Posted by Konfyouzd

Don't be a clingy bitch... Make it work.

Originally Posted by leandroab

Girl I'm dating is going to have a 7am-22pm studying regime this year. FML

Her mother wants her to study saturday and sunday too. She's crazy! I know that getting accepted into unis here is tough, but if you don't let your mind rest for one or two days, you go crazy. I've been through this. You CAN'T do it.

I guess this will be a tough year for me :/