SS Love and Relationships Thread

[ghstofperdition]

If the cashier says anything, offer to have her join you. Problem solved.

[JStraitiff]

Originally Posted by Konfyouzd

A lot of us have close friends that are girls. Girls are different from us. It's a fact of life. The differences among us serve many purposes:

1. Despite the fact that one gender is not inherently better than the other in any way, we do seem to have established "standard" roles for each gender in a family situation. We have been known to deviate from this standard frequently, but there exists one nonetheless.

2. If girls were exactly like us we would find them disgusting.

3. The hoops we jump through to get with a woman in all seriousness are no different from what other animals have to do to impress a woman. Some spread their feathers and do a festive dance. Some just have to chase her down on foot--literally.

4. The things that women talk about and do are things our society has conditioned them to think about, talk about and do not unlike most things the average man does on a daily basis.

If women are so awful .... men. I won't judge you.

I think that my definition of close friends must be different from most people's. I definitely jump through hoops to have a "relationship" with a woman. I put up with my partners just like every other man. I just dont play games with women who im not romantically involved with. Especially if they're just jerking me around about getting into a relationship.

[MFB]

So I' in San Francisco for the weekend, doing a tour of my college and seeing dozens of cute girls ane what do I dream about? Ah yes my ex

[Konfyouzd]

Originally Posted by JStraitiff

I think that my definition of close friends must be different from most people's. I definitely jump through hoops to have a "relationship" with a woman. I put up with my partners just like every other man. I just dont play games with women who im not romantically involved with. Especially if they're just jerking me around about getting into a relationship.

Do you complain ab all your close friends? Maybe you do a poor job of picking the ppl with whom you want to be close. Perhaps you've just poorly represented yourself here. Either way being "close friends" w the opposite sex requires a level of sensitivity you seem to lack.

[Konfyouzd]

Originally Posted by MFB

So I' in San Francisco for the weekend, doing a tour of my college and seeing dozens of cute girls ane what do I dream about? Ah yes my ex

Some ppl just have that effect on you. C'est la vie mon ami /terrible attempt @French

[Necris]

Originally Posted by JStraitiff

Women are perfectly capable of interacting in a social situation, but i dont want to hear about their personal problems that they cant seem to resolve for some retarded reason.

I only quoted this part since that's what I'm addressing but taking the rest of the post into account essentially what you're saying is "I can have a female friend, but if we aren't having sex there's no way I'm offering any sort of emotional support for her personal problems."



I can't help but feel that's a bit of a disgusting viewpoint to take.

[Konfyouzd]

Fyi my male friend do a lotta dumb shit I don't care to hear ab.

Since I'm not gay I should just stop hanging out w them...

[vampiregenocide]

The problem I do have with a lot of my female friends is that they don't deal with issues as logically as guys do. They think things over, get worked up, see if things change in time where ordinarily a guy would be like 'I have a problem, let's sort this'. As a result, I've given out advice countless times to female friends only to watch them ignore it and allow things to get worse. Then, when they do break up I give them the whole 'well, you had problems a lot it's for the best' talk, and they're back together again a week later.

I've had this with virtually every girl I've been friends with. Time and time again. Guys tend to be more direct when there is a problem, or simply ignore it.

So there are some friends I simply don't engage with in terms of relationship advice. They can do what they want, because I've tried to help them only to be ignored. Why ask for advice if you're just going to ignore it? Meh.



Anyway, I like a couple of girls at the moment who are both single. One of them has been my friend for a long time and I was going to ask her on a date a while ago but she got a boyfriend. She's single now though, but I'm waiting to give her some time before I ask her out. She has better taste in music than mos of my male friends (She likes Meshuggah and pretty much every band I like) so she's wife material. The other girl I like I've known for less time, but she's equally hot and has great taste in music. Need to hang out more to know whether there's a chance though. I'm also seeing another girl next week, but in a casual friends with benefits sense. We both need it.

[Aevolve]

Going on a date tonight with a girl I recently met that I may or may not have mentioned on here. Just getting some sushi and seeing a movie. She's ....ing awesome, wish me luck dudes.

[-42-]

Originally Posted by PeachesMcKenzie

Going on a date tonight with a girl I recently met that I may or may not have mentioned on here. Just getting some sushi and seeing a movie. She's ....ing awesome, wish me luck dudes.

Hey look, someone's getting somewhere.

[Konfyouzd]

Originally Posted by vampiregenocide

The problem I do have with a lot of my female friends is that they don't deal with issues as logically as guys do. They think things over, get worked up, see if things change in time where ordinarily a guy would be like 'I have a problem, let's sort this'. As a result, I've given out advice countless times to female friends only to watch them ignore it and allow things to get worse. Then, when they do break up I give them the whole 'well, you had problems a lot it's for the best' talk, and they're back together again a week later.

I've had this with virtually every girl I've been friends with. Time and time again. Guys tend to be more direct when there is a problem, or simply ignore it.

So there are some friends I simply don't engage with in terms of relationship advice. They can do what they want, because I've tried to help them only to be ignored. Why ask for advice if you're just going to ignore it? Meh.



Anyway, I like a couple of girls at the moment who are both single. One of them has been my friend for a long time and I was going to ask her on a date a while ago but she got a boyfriend. She's single now though, but I'm waiting to give her some time before I ask her out. She has better taste in music than mos of my male friends (She likes Meshuggah and pretty much every band I like) so she's wife material. The other girl I like I've known for less time, but she's equally hot and has great taste in music. Need to hang out more to know whether there's a chance though. I'm also seeing another girl next week, but in a casual friends with benefits sense. We both need it.

Indeed and often when you offer a solution too soon they view it [sometimes] as you belittling their situation rather than extending a helping hand. Realizing/accepting these things make for smoother interactions.

Learning to pick your battles--as you clearly have--is also a good idea.

[JStraitiff]

Originally Posted by vampiregenocide

The problem I do have with a lot of my female friends is that they don't deal with issues as logically as guys do. They think things over, get worked up, see if things change in time where ordinarily a guy would be like 'I have a problem, let's sort this'. As a result, I've given out advice countless times to female friends only to watch them ignore it and allow things to get worse. Then, when they do break up I give them the whole 'well, you had problems a lot it's for the best' talk, and they're back together again a week later.

I've had this with virtually every girl I've been friends with. Time and time again. Guys tend to be more direct when there is a problem, or simply ignore it.

So there are some friends I simply don't engage with in terms of relationship advice. They can do what they want, because I've tried to help them only to be ignored. Why ask for advice if you're just going to ignore it? Meh.

This is the exact thing i am talking about. Which actually makes me laugh that Konfyouzd agreed with you on it but he still continues to argue with me. Some people argue for the sake of argument and i appreciate that. Rock on Konfyouzd

[Captain Shoggoth]

*reads stories in thread, as I have done for a long while*

[MFB]

Originally Posted by Konfyouzd

Some ppl just have that effect on you. C'est la vie mon ami /terrible attempt @French

It's just infuriating, and since it's the only part of the dream I remember, it was really depressing waking up; nothing more than that. It's been a little over a year since we were "together" and I haven't seen her in four months as well, so I don't care. I'm moving 3,000 miles to a new school, city, state and I'll be damned if I'm gonna think about her.

[-42-]

Originally Posted by MFB

It's just infuriating, and since it's the only part of the dream I remember, it was really depressing waking up; nothing more than that. It's been a little over a year since we were "together" and I haven't seen her in four months as well, so I don't care. I'm moving 3,000 miles to a new school, city, state and I'll be damned if I'm gonna think about her.

Watch more porn.

[Aevolve]

Just got back from the date.

Holy ....ing shit. Cannot stop smiling.
Have not been this happy in a while. This girl is amazing. No lapse in conversation, no mishaps, no nothing. Best date I've ever been on, period.

And I played it right- didn't even kiss her yet. Seeing her next weekend.

[JStraitiff]

Originally Posted by MFB

It's just infuriating, and since it's the only part of the dream I remember, it was really depressing waking up; nothing more than that. It's been a little over a year since we were "together" and I haven't seen her in four months as well, so I don't care. I'm moving 3,000 miles to a new school, city, state and I'll be damned if I'm gonna think about her.

I had a dream like that last week. I woke up and all the sudden i had these intense feelings for this girl i havent talked to in 9 years. Still didnt quite go away. Id be really happy to be back with her.

[ghstofperdition]

Originally Posted by -42-

Hey look, someone's getting somewhere.

I dunno what you're talking about. I got the guy and the girl can just go .... herself. I win.

[Ibanezsam4]

Originally Posted by MFB

It's just infuriating, and since it's the only part of the dream I remember, it was really depressing waking up; nothing more than that

i had a dream about my ex once after we had broken up a few months prior.... this was over a year ago. dont remember any part before that but in the dream she turns around and smiles at me and says "you dork".. that had been our inside joke and was her term of endearment for me. i woke up crying. dreams suck sometimes

[-42-]

Man this thread is sappy.

Except ghostofperidition, he has his shit together, regardless of which team he bats for.

[Ibanezsam4]

Originally Posted by -42-

Man this thread is sappy.

Except ghostofperidition, he has his shit together, regardless of which team he bats for.

it feels wrong to contribute happy love life stories to this thread lol

no but seriously ghost is a beast

[leandroab]

Originally Posted by PeachesMcKenzie

Just got back from the date.

Holy ....ing shit. Cannot stop smiling.
Have not been this happy in a while. This girl is amazing. No lapse in conversation, no mishaps, no nothing. Best date I've ever been on, period.

And I played it right- didn't even kiss her yet. Seeing her next weekend.

Nice dude! Pretty similar to my case, except I kissed my girl on the first date

aahahhaha

[Konfyouzd]

Originally Posted by JStraitiff

This is the exact thing i am talking about. Which actually makes me laugh that Konfyouzd agreed with you on it but he still continues to argue with me. Some people argue for the sake of argument and i appreciate that. Rock on Konfyouzd

No my point was that you came across like a raging douchebag about it. We all know that it happens we just don't all ....ing cry about it like little boys. No one is arguing with you. Just pointing out that you need to grow up a little bit.

[HaMMerHeD]

Originally Posted by vampiregenocide

The problem I do have with a lot of my female friends is that they don't deal with issues as logically as guys do. They think things over, get worked up, see if things change in time where ordinarily a guy would be like 'I have a problem, let's sort this'. As a result, I've given out advice countless times to female friends only to watch them ignore it and allow things to get worse. Then, when they do break up I give them the whole 'well, you had problems a lot it's for the best' talk, and they're back together again a week later.

I've had this with virtually every girl I've been friends with. Time and time again. Guys tend to be more direct when there is a problem, or simply ignore it.

So there are some friends I simply don't engage with in terms of relationship advice. They can do what they want, because I've tried to help them only to be ignored. Why ask for advice if you're just going to ignore it? Meh.

After having numerous girlfriends and having been married and subsequently divorced, I have found that when women complain, they aren't looking for advice or a solution. They are looking for sympathy. Nod and agree, and you'll be fine.

[ghstofperdition]

Originally Posted by -42-

Man this thread is sappy.

Except ghostofperidition, he has his shit together, regardless of which team he bats for.

Don't get me wrong, I'm all for the ladies too, but I hate head games. At least with guys, the sky is still blue and the earth still flat. A chick will throw shit at you just BECAUSE the sky is blue, yet insist it isn't.

Awesome thing about dating another bi guy is that we don't consider sleeping with women to be cheating, so we have that option.