SS Love and Relationships Thread

[ralphy1976]

no comments?...

[Fzau]

Originally Posted by JohnIce

I think a big difference between me and him is that he can't have a decent relationship (as he's explained here and there), whereas I'm awesome and am a master in relationships and casual ....ing.

Fixed

Originally Posted by JohnIce

... and yeah I have black hands... I thought everyone had them... right? ...it's normal, right?

I just checked mine, it's ok. No worries.

[død]

Looks like aforementioned lesbian girl might be going with me to NOFX tonight. Awesome!

[Customisbetter]

Originally Posted by metulkult

Is it just me, or are ALL girls just intimidating?

Yes.

[leandroab]

This thread should be made into a self-help book. It would sell millions. We would be rich..

I CLAIM COPYRIGHTS!

[auxioluck]

Originally Posted by Herb Dorklift

Oh, just so you guys know, this is the chick I may take to Paris...(on left)



Does that change your advice??

Anyone else seeing the defensive body language here?

I'll stand by John's advice.

[avenger]

Originally Posted by auxioluck

The hardest part now is making it last.

Originally Posted by JohnIce

That's interesting! As much as there's usually quite a difference between what women say and what they mean, i.e. what they say they want and what they actually want, you're definately on thin ice if she starts thinking you're a player... not to mention hurting someone's feelings is never ok. But I think "playing games" is a bit of a strange concept, because if you're doing it right, and you do get the girl and all is well in happy-land for both of you, then what is there to complain about? Maybe the guy sat up all night studying and made every move with imacculate scientific care to ensure hooking up with this girl... but if the end result is that she's happy with him, what's the issue? No-one's forcing her to be with the guy.

I think that if a guy would do all the "right" things without thinking about it, he'd be considered the stallion of the century, but if he actually takes a minute to review his way of interacting with women and making an effort to be more likeable, then all of a sudden he's a "player" who is "tricking" women That to me is like saying someone who starts going to the gym to better his appearance is "tricking" you that he's in good shape. I don't get it.

I know plenty of awesome guys who have tons of friends who'd do anything for them cause they're just great in every way, but who can't get girls because they are just clueless about attraction. It's the girls' loss every bit as much as it is the guys'.

Thats my new motto tbh.

I laughed and told my girl (hahah EX girl!) that I wasnt angery at her or anything but that she should consider how she will never find anyone as awesome as myself.

I don't want to be mean or anything but its her loss. I have reconencted with tons of old friends recently and they all have told me the same thing. First after the "wtf YOU two broke up? You two seemed great together!!" comes the "I wouldn't let go of your beard for anything if we were dating!".

Ahh talk about a confidence boost! I feel great guys! Of course I miss the relationship we had but overall I feel fantastic and my guitar skills are already increasing at a great rate!

[JohnIce]

Originally Posted by ralphy1976

no comments?...

What's up with everyone giving me black hands?

[ralphy1976]

you want some gloves?!!!

[Herb Dorklift]

Originally Posted by auxioluck

Anyone else seeing the defensive body language here?

I'll stand by John's advice.

How so?

[MFB]

Originally Posted by leandroab

This thread should be made into a self-help book. It would sell millions. We would be rich..

I CLAIM COPYRIGHTS!

"A Guide to Dating By Sevenstring Guitarists, Internet Nerds and that one Swedish Guy Everyone Loves"

The title just rolls off the tongue

[ralphy1976]

henrik larson?!!!!

[MFB]

Originally Posted by ralphy1976

henrik larson?!!!!

I just totally misread that name and went, "No no no, it's Lance Henrikson!" not even caring about the picture ...or the fact that Lance isn't from Sweden

[MikeH]

Just to interrupt the flow of things, my girl and I have been together for 14 months and are still going strong. We have our fights every now and then, but nothing that ever gets too out of hand. I'm thinking it's because of the fact that we both like very few people.

[CrushingAnvil]

What the hell is going on here guise?

[avenger]

Originally Posted by CrushingAnvil

What the hell is going on here guise?

We come here, whine about our lovers, people tell us to smarten up, and then we play some guitar.

[Tiger]

Originally Posted by leandroab

I CLAIM COPYRIGHTS!

My idea I get percentages.

[auxioluck]

Originally Posted by Herb Dorklift

How so?

Closed arms, body turned semi-away, head and neck pulled slightly away as well. I dunno, maybe I'm just seeing things, but she looks a little uncomfortable in that pic.

I mean, that's just my opinion. I wouldn't ever tell you or anyone else what to do with your life. Hell, I'm in a totally different country, so I don't know diddly shit about what she's like anyway.

[CatPancakes]

Why is this so hard? .... playing games. if you like a girl, ask her if she wants to go out sometime, chances are, youll get her number. play it cool be yourself. if you spend time pretending to be someone else and playing games, what happens when you do act like yourself?
If a girl doesnt want you as you are, shes not worth your time.

[snuif09]

Originally Posted by Varcolac

Wrong approach. Play everything in harmonic minor, get girls anyway.

you read my mind hahahaha

[JohnIce]

Originally Posted by CatPancakes

Why is this so hard? .... playing games. if you like a girl, ask her if she wants to go out sometime, chances are, youll get her number. play it cool be yourself. if you spend time pretending to be someone else and playing games, what happens when you do act like yourself?
If a girl doesnt want you as you are, shes not worth your time.

Like I said... if a fat person decides he wants to get in shape, and starts excercising and lifting weights until he's really fit... is he not being himself then? Is he tricking people into believing he's fit, when he's actually fat?

No, he's not. If you want to make the effort to take your relationships seriously and understand the bigger picture, so that you can be more likeable and be happier with your social situation, aswell as avoid the pitfalls that can spoil a potentially great relationship, then you're not "pretending" to be someone you're not, you're just becoming who you want to be. There's a vast difference. I don't have an ESP endorsement but I want one, so if I end up working my ass off and finally getting that endorsement, am I not being "myself" just because I used to own a Schecter once?

- edit - And at your last part, "If a girl doesnt want you as you are, shes not worth your time."... relations are as much about compromising and humility as anything else. I can honestly say every girl I've been with has made me more mature and become a better person, because they didn't just let me be myself. As it says in my sig, "Be yourself" is not always good advice, to most people it should be a rough guide line at best.

[leandroab]

Describing relationships with guitar brands. ....ing epic.

[chimp_spanner]

Originally Posted by leandroab

Describing relationships with guitar brands. ....ing epic.

In that case, which brand fits the bill of totally unpredictable, inconsistent, and utterly impossible to ditch?

[Fzau]

Originally Posted by chimp_spanner

In that case, which brand fits the bill of totally unpredictable, inconsistent, and utterly impossible to ditch?

Blackmachine must be attractive, right?
I mean, if Pete Graves is doing a marketing stunt covering his junk with a Blackmachine headstock who wouldn't want one?

[CrushingAnvil]

Originally Posted by avenger

We come here, whine about our lovers, people tell us to smarten up, and then we play some guitar.

Cool beans.

I need some vagina.

How about choo guys?